We don't have any pictures of our boys' birthmothers. I am sad about this for my boys. They have asked about pictures, a little, and I think it will be more important to them later, as they grow up and think more about what adoption really means. Perhaps when they are first asked to make… Continue reading Empty Frames
Category: Parenting
How to Fix Pants
If you have raised a boy or observed someone raising a boy or in fact encountered a boy at any point in your life, you may be aware that boys are very hard on the knees of their pants. Sometimes the pants seem to have been worn only once or twice to family weddings before… Continue reading How to Fix Pants
Another Van Trip
"I want to talk to you about something," Paul said, sitting down at the kitchen table with a full glass of water and a trepidatious look, "and I want you to listen until I'm done before you start yelling." "Okay," I said slowly, pushing away my almost-finished dinner. "Given that opening, I'm not sure I… Continue reading Another Van Trip
Flakes of All Kinds
Yesterday I posted this on Facebook. Because I thought it was funny. Other people did too. And as the poor-babies comments piled up, I thought about posting a comment saying, hey, by the way, you don't need to buy my kids cereal. It's not like they don't get treats. And we'll be at a hotel… Continue reading Flakes of All Kinds
Protecting the Dream
CAUTION: Contains frank talk about Santa. You've been warned. . . . . . I'm ambivalent about Santa. I never believed in Santa as a child. Paul didn't either, and when we talked about it we generally decided we'd go along if they picked it up from other people, but wouldn't lie if asked a… Continue reading Protecting the Dream